Out-of-the-blue yesterday, I received a text message from a man who had captured my interest in the spring/summer of 2011. We went on a few dates, and I thought we were progressing nicely, although very slowly, until he called to cancel a date and to say, “I just don’t feel a deep connection.”
Wham! Wallop!
I thought we just needed to spend more time together, so I suggested that we remain friends, and we did.....until Cindy (not her real name.) Have you ever done that?
A few months later I was invited to go skiing with that man “friend”, and his best female friend, AND his new Match.com date! I was surprised to note that his date, Cindy had a very similar stature to me, and I quickly decided that they would not last long. That was 2 months ago, and she took him to my parent’s church yesterday, prompting his text.
Hearing from him, and knowing he was with her put a little song in my head, and if you are a fan of the 80s you might remember this song by the Producers, “What’s [s]he got, that I aint got...” (the video is quite entertaining!)
Yes, I started replaying the few dates I had with Tall Dark and Handsome, trying to figure out where I blew it, and what’s she got that I aint got? My wise-self finally screamed, “STOP IT! and be thankful that God closed that door!”
“The enemy of Faith is Memory.” Ed Silvoso
Do I trust God? Or not? One of my favorite prayers when I meet a new man of dating [marriage] potential is Isaiah 22:22, “LORD, thank you for Your purposes for ____ in my life. If this relationship is from you, then open the door that no one can shut it, and if this man is not good for me, close the door that no one can open it!”
Sometimes the door closes quickly, and after the initial blow, I remember my prayer and I thank God for protecting me from the things I cannot see.
Save yourself from the time wasting agony of rehashing the past, comparing yourself to others, or trying to figure it all out. Of course we need to be open to learn the valuable lessons from our experiences, but you know what I am talking about.
Trust God! He is worthy of our faith and trust. He is good, and He will honor His promises. Trust Him enough to release your past disappointments, accept the way things worked out, and look with faith to the great things He has for your future! Do not get entangled in your memories, “Give thanks with a grateful heart” for all the doors that close, and prepare yourself for the doors God is about to open to His BEST for you!
Get Ready! He is going to knock your socks off!
“Trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) in the Lord and do good; so shall you dwell in the land and feed surely on His faithfulness, and truly you shall be fed.
Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart.
Commit your way to the Lord [roll and repose each care of your load on Him]; trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) also in Him and He will bring it to pass.”Psalm 37:3-5 Amplified
AMEN! [so be it!]”
Expecting to be amazed ~
Barbara
© Barbara Nelson – 2012
